The Struggle Of Not Immigrating

Why is it that we always feel like the grass is always greener on the other side? With more and more of my friends moving away to work in Australia, Canada, England, UAE and even Mexico it gets increasingly harder to remember why I choose not to work abroad. 

I have, and always will have my reasons for not wanting to – but now that I see other people do it I think ‘am I a fool for sticking around…?’. Then I have to remind myself that firstly I haven’t really ‘stuck around’. I’m originally from Limerick and I upped and moved my life 225km to what we country folk like to call it.. ‘The Big Shmoke!’ (aka Dublin) for my first real experience in the adult world. And secondly, my favourite country in the world is Ireland. No matter how much I travel I love being able to call here my home.

I think Social media is the main reason we all think those living abroad are having more fun. You see all these pictures of people at crystal clear beaches or wandering through New York City and you just automatically assume that they are having the time of their lives. No one ever posts about the days they spend at work at a desk like everyone else or the long days of slaving on a farm in Australia to get their visa to stay another year – or even the days they spend missing home, somewhere I’m only two and a half hours away from (or 4 hours if I’m feeling adventurous and take the bus).

I look at these pictures and I think I’m missing out. There is this little thing inside you that tells you they are having more fun than you are just because they are away and experiencing new things and honestly having lived abroad before – it’s usually not always rainbows and butterflys (but yes, it is also a lot of fun!). If I was to go experience life abroad for a year I would be leaving my job and the first few years of experience I am gaining in it, the financial security I have that let me visit 13 countries last year and hit up a few concerts and festivals, I would no longer be able to travel home to see my parents when times got tough, and I wouldn’t live in a lovely apartment with my boyfriend and two cats (the two cats is the biggest anchor for me to stay, not gonna lie!). I’m not saying that they aren’t having fun – nor am I saying that moving away is something I would never do. I just think it’s healthy to remember that comparing your life is something you have to learn to stop doing.

Knockfierna Hill, Limerick, Ireland
Knockfierna, West Limerick (Ireland)

It’s really hard to not think that your friends abroad are having more fun than you – but jokes on them because I can’t imagine the grass where they are is literally half as green as Ireland’s 😉

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25 thoughts on “The Struggle Of Not Immigrating

  1. You are absolutely right! We are thinking the grass is always greener on the other side! Ther problem is social media it’s provoking our insecurities. I’ve been in 30+ countries, lived in more than 5 and I can tell it’s not the country, it’s you and you willingness to achieve your dreams.

  2. Allo friend! Hehe love getting mentioned on your blog. I’m going to be completely honest with you after 6 months over in Mexico (a full comprehensive feedback incl. good AND bad) I imagine it will be glamorous at weekends with amazing Instagram posts and fun Snapchat stories but the thoughts of not being able to see my family & friends in Ireland is daunting. I’m mostly worried about losing the safety net of going home to Limerick to see Mom & the twins when as you said times are tough…However the benefits and the excitement of relocating definitely outweighs that safety net by a long shot. I do think you need to experience at least once in your life to move away from the nest. Just to immerse yourself in a new culture and meet new friends. I’m learning Spanish at the moment which is actually really fun and will look great on my CV. Don’t be worried though you know you will always have the option to go and you will always have a home to come back to.

    1. Love the long, comprehensive comment there buddy haha! If I was to move it would be after I get my 3+ years experience as a marketeer & when I head off it will be all travelling for a few months I’d say (although I would enjoy Canada post experience-getting!) But getting experience in work trumps moving for me at the moment! I don’t think you are the best example though.. you are getting paid an absolute shit tonne and don’t have to leave your job.. dream situation much 😂

  3. I moved to Canada last year. It was my first time travelling on my own and I knew no one over there. I panicked after a few months and returned home. I absolutely love Ireland and I love telling people about this country but there are times I wonder if I should have stayed in Canada because of the economy and the way the government have been running the show. I too saw family and friends moving abroad and other travel bloggers travelling extensively and thought I should be doing that. I allowed myself to be influenced by that. Just because you’ve moved abroad or decided to travel extensively, it doesn’t make you immune to the ups and downs of life. Now I realise that I don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. March to the beat of your own drum girl!

    1. I’m sad to hear it didn’t go smoothly for you! It’s so hard not to think of the ‘what if’s’. I’m sure people abroad wonder what would have happened if they stayed at home, likewise those who stayed at home would wonder what if they moved abroad! It is really a case of each to their own, I think we just need to stop comparing so much – or at least I do anyway! The travel bloggers who travel the world and don’t seem to work at all are the ones that kill me the most haha!

      1. These things happen. Canada is a wonderful country. Exactly! I definitely need to stop comparing. I should know better at my age. Pictures are not always what they seem, it’s so easy to show a false reality.

  4. I think it’s simply a case of “each to their own” – I’ve learnt a lot from my time living abroad, and ultimately it’s taught me that in the long term I want to live closer to home (i.e. in the UK). There’s nothing wrong with not living abroad though – I can totally understand why you’d rather prioritise getting experience in your field over plunging into the unknown abroad. Social media makes living abroad seem infinitely more glamorous than it is – mountains of unintelligible administration and piles of papers to mark are the less exciting side of things for me, but exploring new places (and even just new places within the city where I’m based) gives me something to look forward to. I’ve had more responsibility with my job this time round in France, which didn’t leave a whole lot of time for treating each weekend as a holiday last term. Fortunately, I’m on top of things at the moment before term starts, so hopefully I can really make the most of my last five months here!

    1. Definitely! That is the worst part I would find about moving abroad I think – wanting to get good experience but then if you start to get too invested in your work you end up having to neglect the adventure side a small bit! It’s a pain in the ass to get the balance completely right! I would definitely consider moving after I get some experience (and a bit of money in the bank!) but for now I will have to write this from my little office desk in Dublin… 🙂 best of luck with the last few months you have – they will fly so make the complete most of them!! 🙂

  5. This is so true. I’m from Edmonton in Canada, I’ve lived here all my life and several of my friends have gone to work abroad or are in the process. I’ve contemplated travel nursing, but something always holds me back. I love travel. I love to submerge myself in culture and new places, but my thing is… if I live in a beautiful city I love like London or New York, will I see the beauty there like I once did? Or will I see the not so beautiful things I was blind to while blissfully travelling? Good on you for sticking your own, we can be travellers without working abroad and returning home 🙂

  6. I relate!! I’m always looking elsewhere and doing so RIGHT KNOW. I think the most important is being honest with yourself, seek for deep fulfilment and stay focused on what your long term goals are! Having said this, I think anyone should work and live abroad at least once in their life… for at least six months! 😉

  7. You are very lucky in the sense that your favourite country is your own country. Maybe if I were Irish, I would feel the same about it 😀 I love working abroad, staying in places for a longer period of time, but you are of course right in the sense that an office job in Germany is really not much different than an office job in the Netherlands, and I do miss families and friends. And yes, I do regularly wonder whether it is all worth it. For now I still believe it is, but the minute I start believing it isn’t I will be on my way home. After all, home is a really, really wonderful place too.

  8. I think it is the nature of travel, people invest so much time, energy, and money into seeing the world they dont want to mention the bad things

    1. Definitely. Social media creates a very picture perfect image of travelling and can make it look very glamorous even when it’s not. I like to see people having an amazing time too, don’t get me wrong – I just can’t help but get a little jealous 😋

  9. Cliché as it may sound, but “THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME” after all 🙂

    I feel you actually. Other people are wondering why I do not go “Abroad” because of my career (I am a registered nurse by the way). Idk but I still love my country even though there are lots of bad things here, I still see the good in here. Though I would love to travel to different countries around the globe – just the travel part that I wanted, not the migrating part. or living somewhere for a long period.

    PS Ireland is one of my bucketlist 😉

  10. I think it’s important to travel – but you don’t necessarily have to move in order to do that. I just know in my case, when I lived in the U.S. (Washington, DC) I wasn’t able to easily travel beyond a few hours away because it’s more expensive to fly in the U.S. than Europe. Living in England now, it’s much cheaper to fly around so I’ve seen a lot more.
    That being said – Even though I do travel a lot, I also have the 9-5 job (yay financial security!). There’s nothing wrong with liking where you live, and you obviously are still seeing the world! 🙂

    1. Yeah I think people in Ireland don’t realize how lucky they have it when it comes to being in Europe. We often forget we are so close to other countries just because we are an island! I would love to move away some day.. but at the moment I am enjoying everything here! Thanks for the comment 🙂

  11. Sometimes it’s not for fun, sometimes there is no other choice but to immigrate. My parents immigrated from Slovakia when i was 12 and honestly it was the best decision they could ever make. It gave us more opportunities for better future. While life in Slovakia (as I remember it as a child) wasn’t bad, i know that my parent’s wouldn’t leave without a really good reason. Sometimes it’s just inevitable 🙂 It also makes people grow and make them culturally more aware I think. Plus, i can understand why someone who lived in one country their who life would like to experience living somewhere else before settling down in one place. It’s all part of growing up. Good piece by the way 🙂

    1. That’s very true! Even back in 2006 people were leaving in Ireland because of the recession with lack of jobs! Now people are just leaving for the experience (which I don’t look down on in any way either, I’m just not in a position to go myself, yet!). I’m glad to hear everything worked out well for your family and you got better opportunities from it 🙂

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